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For Everyone who Learns at Home

Your Child’s Disability Isn’t Your Fault

As I cope with the possibility that my son has a learning disability, ADHD, etc, I can’t help feeling a little bit responsible.

  • I should’ve had his ear tubes inserted sooner. Then he would have heard sounds clearer, which would have helped his language/reading ability.
  • I should’ve pursued testing sooner. I wonder if we’ve waited too long and if permanent emotional damage is done to my son.
  • I should’ve fought more when the insurance company denied the initial eval. It took an educational battery from a school psychologist for us to get permission to do the testing we need.

I could go on and on, but I have to come to terms that my child’s disability isn’t my fault. I’m grateful for my friend D who reminded me of this truth today. I needed to hear her wisdom, and maybe you do too.

We can’t change the past. And just like we can’t control our kids’ actions, we can’t cause or take away their disability. But we can do something about the disability.

I’ll be calling first thing tomorrow morning for the next eval we need. And I’ll be pushing until my son and our family gets the help we need.

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